Munchkin: Is that where I scratched you?
Me: Yes, Baby.
Munchkin: Is that where I bruised you?
Me: It’s okay, Baby.
Munchkin: But bruises and scratches hurt. *bursts into tears* I don’t want you to hurt. I’m so sorry, Mommy!
Me: It’s okay, Baby. I love you.
Munchkin: *sobs uncontrollably* I’m sorry, Mommy. I’m sorry!
And this is why unsolicited advice such as “just pop her” and “don’t let her control you” is so damaging. Munchkin can’t help herself in her flares. It would be like trying to smack diabetes out of a child.